After working for dozens of brides and designing for all types of weddings and styles, I thought it might be helpful to create a list of ways to make your wedding stand out!
The main key here is infusing the day with your personality! The thoughtful touches that share more about you and your fiancé make the day memorable to your guests and to both of you. This is NOT a list on how to make your wedding more personal--I want to take it a step further and talk about how your personality can add to the styleof the day.
Choosing a consistent color story for the day is a great way to help clarify your vision and direct your vendors on the mood, style and vibe of the wedding. You can have a super tight palette like the popular “blush, white + burgundy” or you can widen it to something like “jewel tones.” I suggest and have seen the best designs come to life with 4-6 colors. Another suggestion is to not just search for wedding colors on Pinterest. Look for interior design photos you love, your own wardrobe—what colors are you naturally drawn to already? This is where you can hone in on your personal style. Don’t see an exact bouquet you’re thinking about on Pinterest—even better! Talk to your florist about creating a totally custom look using your personalized color palette inspiration.
This may be the obvious place to start, but for good reason. What the bride wears sets the tone for the whole wedding. The level of formality is based on her dress—is it a beach wedding or a black tie event? Beyond the bridal gown, think through the bridesmaids. Floor length dresses tend to flatter everyone and photographer better. What about the color—all the same, mix matched, vary in style? Much of the overall color palette and vibe of the day can be told through what the ‘maids wear. Just look at the girls above in the white pantsuit--hey style! Don’t forget about the boys! Suits, suspenders, bow tie, etc. The options for menswear may be more than you think. Make sure the bride and groom go together stylistically. The color of the mens’ suits need to complement the girls’ dresses—so think through how the group will as a whole. They will be in a lot of pictures together!
The goes beyond just the florals. Signs to guide guests, lighting, linens, place settings, pictures, etc. There are countless ways to incorporate your theme into the décor of the event. Are you going for romantic + timeless, rustic, boho-chic, tropical, modern, etc. This is where your color palette and theme meet to make magic and have your wedding stand out from all the others you’ve attended. Flowers do play a large part in helping communicate the theme. The type of blooms used, their color, the overall design can speak volumes about your style. Talk honestly with your florist about your style (are you Anthropologie or JCrew? World Market or Pottery Barn?) so that your flowers can reflect you. I also love when clients have inspiration images they like, but are open to customizing the design. I can then think through what blooms would be most beautiful, special and unique instead of just copying an image.
Music sets the mood. It can make your guest cry or laugh. Think through the feeling you want to create throughout the day. Be intentional and thoughtful about this details—this is something guests will forget about if its generic, but if you add a little flair and personality—people remember the music of the day because it makes them FEEL.
Another fun place to add personality! Do you and your fiancé love anything in particular? Have a special memory from a first date dinner, funny story of a quirky meal, a favorite dish from childhood? Bring your guests into your love story through food. Be sure to make a note of the reason for the selection on a menu or a sign by the dish. Beyond just memories, can you jazz up the food in anyway? I once had a couple who didn’t love wedding cake, so they requested a croquembouche style dessert (go ahead, google it). We surrounded it with flowers and make it a focal point in the reception—people couldn’t stop talking about it! It was special, different and stylish!
The details matter and can continue to enhance the look and feel you’re wanting for your wedding day. Sure, it can be overwhelming to think through them all—but worth it. (Find a coordinator with impeccable style and it gets way easier!) Seating chart, table numbers, menu, cake topper, photobooth, late night snack, candles, napkins, etc. All these elements can add to the day to make it feel purposeful and special. Thinking through the details you want to include and then spending time with your vendors on how to customize them to your style can take your wedding from drab to fab—usually with little to no cost increase. How much more fun is it to have your tables labeled with places that are important to you and your groom instead of numbers? You’d at least be giving your guests something to talk about during the cocktail hour if they were seated at “High School Algebra Class” or “Denton Square” rather than Table 5. Details matter!
There are so many way to go about adding style to your wedding. If you’re overwhelmed, find a coordinator you love and work closely with her and a florist you trust. Many of your vendors will love to opportunity to create something new instead of recreating designs they’ve done countless time. Specify a color palette, communicate the vibe, and push past all the images you see pinned. Come up with yourstyle. I promise you will remember your wedding day and find it more meaningful and so will your guests.